The first question that I ask a prospective client during an initial consultation is, “What is leading you to seek therapy at this time?” The most common answer I receive from men is lack of satisfaction with their job. More than any problem with their partner or children or friend or in-laws are problems finding satisfaction with their occupation. Why is dissatisfaction with work such a strong force that leads men to seek therapy? Western culture has long equated a man's worth with his productivity, making it difficult for many to establish a healthy work-life balance. While ambition and hard work are valuable traits, an overreliance on work can have severe consequences on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. Understanding the root causes of excessive work habits and seeking support, such as therapy, can be crucial in breaking this cycle.
Many men struggle with overcommitment to work due to deeply ingrained beliefs about success and responsibility. From a young age, they are conditioned to view professional achievements as a measure of their self-worth. The pressure to provide, succeed, and prove themselves can drive them to overwork at the expense of personal relationships, hobbies, and self-care. Over time, this relentless pursuit of success can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and even depression (Burke, 2006). The COVID-19 pandemic exacerbated this issue, as remote work blurred the lines between personal and professional life, making it even harder for men to set boundaries and disengage from work-related pressures.
One of the most concerning aspects of excessive work devotion is its impact on mental health. Excessive working can create feelings of emptiness and isolation, as personal connections take a backseat to professional obligations. Without intervention, the effects of work addiction can be long-lasting and damaging (Schaufeli, Taris, & Bakker, 2008).
Therapy can be a powerful tool in helping men recognize and address their overworking tendencies. Therapy can help by allowing men to explore the underlying fears and beliefs that drive excessive work habits, including beliefs about productivity and success. Therapy also encourages the development of social support and resources outside of the work realm, ensuring that men do not use work as a way to avoid difficult emotions or personal challenges (Andreassen, Hetland, & Pallesen, 2014).
Breaking free from compulsive work habits requires self-awareness, support, and a willingness to change. By seeking therapy and prioritizing mental health, men can learn to redefine their sense of self-worth beyond their careers. True success is not measured by the number of hours worked but by the ability to lead a balanced, fulfilling life. Addressing excessive work habits is not about working less—it’s about living more. If you’d like to explore this further, consider booking a free consultation to take the first step toward a healthier work-life balance.
References
Andreassen, C. S., Hetland, J., & Pallesen, S. (2014). Workaholism and well-being among high achievers: A longitudinal study. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 19(3), 315-328. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0035709
Burke, R. J. (2006). Workaholism in organizations: Psychological and physical well-being consequences. Stress and Health, 22(3), 143-157. https://doi.org/10.1002/smi.1108
Schaufeli, W. B., Taris, T. W., & Bakker, A. B. (2008). It takes two to tango: Workaholism is working excessively and working compulsively. The Journal of Organizational Behavior, 29(1), 39-54. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.403